Rudy Simone covers 22 common areas of confusion for someone dating a female with AS, including advice from her own experience and that of other couples. She talks with humour and honesty about the little things that might be different from a relationship with a neurotypical woman and discusses first dates, sex, and even having children.

Foreword by Tony Attwood. Introduction. 1. So, you want to date an Aspergirl?. 2. Try feeling this!. 3. She is not broken. You don't need to fix her. 4. No wire hangers....Ever! Why she has control issues. 5. Everyone's a critic...But She's better at it than you. 6. Break on through to the other side. 7. It might seem like her special interest is herself. 8. She only needs one friend....and the winner is, You!. 9. Don't Be Cruel To a Heart That's True. 10. Home Is Where Her Heart Is..and her body much of the time. 11. Even If You Think of Her as a Woman, She Might Not. 12. Her Name Isn't Mommy...No Matter How Much She Loves Her Child. 13. How to turn a Hotbed into a Hot Bed. 14. Why Soothing Behaviors (formerly known as stimming) are good for her...and you. 15. Jumping for Joy...or bouncing, or twirling. 16. Tongue tied but not twisted. Just because she can't verbalize her emotions, doesn't mean she doesn't have them. 17. Depression—the enemy on our borders. 18. The Mood Swings...do more than duck. 19. Trust—Abuse It and Lose It. 20. Is it Obsession or is it Love?. 21. You may find more in common as you get older. 22. Aspergers is a reason, not a label, not an excuse. Last Words. Appendix.

*Silver medal winner in the 'Femininity/Sexuality' category of the Living Now Book Awards*'There are many books that have been written about being in a relationship with a man with AS, but I have found none to be as insightful, accurate and understanding of both perspectives as this book by Rudy Simone. Each section of the book says it just the way it is; it is realistic, positive and unbiased.'