This is a guidebook to help children who: - bully or take revenge on others for the pain they have felt themselves - have become very defensive because something too painful has happened to them - have hardened their hearts because they have: been too hurt in love; met with too much harshness; witnessed parental violence; been repeatedly hit; been shamed or humiliated; or - had too many experiences of not being responded to - think they have lost their parent's love to someone else and have hardened their heart.