How men and women interact, the respect young show old, and old show young, and who doffs their hat to whom provides a telling window on American cultural history. This study works through two centuries of conduct literature, illuminating class, gender and age relations along the way.

Introduction Part I. Hierarchy: Manners in a Vertical Social Order, 1620-1740 Ch. 1. Manners for Gentlemen Ch. 2. Manners Over Minors Ch. 3. Manners Maketh Men Part II. Revolution: An Opening of Possibilities, 1740-1820 Ch. 4. Middle Class Riding Ch. 5. Youth Rising Ch. 6. Women Rising Part III. Resolution: Manners for Democrats, 1820-1860 Ch. 7. Manners for the Middle Class Ch. 8. Manners for Adults Ch. 9. Ladies First? Conclusion Table: Conduct Works: Author/Audience Statistics Notes Bibliography

"Hemphill's approach to [her] subject is refreshing. She brings serious understanding and a subtlety of mind to a body of knowledge that initially appears infinitely exhausting....Manners, as we commonly know, manage conflicts, contradictions, and hostility between people in the vagaries of everyday life. In the larger patterns of historical time, Hemphill argues that conduct books served to reflect relationships of power, class, gender, and age by means of which cultures performed serious work. Before 1740, manners reinforced inequality in a deferential, hierarchic structure. After, until the middle of the nineteenth century, they served as form and function for a 'rising' middle class that was realizing the possibilities of revolution through claims to republican and democratic values, albeit controversial. Hemphill succeeds in developing a one-dimensional source into a complex, shrewd story."--Burton J. Bledstein, University of Illinois at Chicago "Manners have been receiving growing scholarly attention of late, in part perhaps because of the uncertainties about contemporary civilities. In this striking new contribution, C. Dallett Hemphill provides important new insights about the origins of American manners and about the role of changing etiquette standards in forming social class and gender definitions. There are provocative implications in this careful yet imaginative inquiry for topics as wide-ranging as childhood and humor."--Peter Stearns, Carnegie Mellon University "Make no mistake: this marvelous book is much more than a narrow history of manners in early America. It is an expansive and brilliant history of early America in manners. C. Dallett Hemphill has read more etiquette manuals and conduct books than anyone else ever has, and she has read them more vivifyingly besides. She has tantalizing and transformative things to say about patriarchy and privacy, about body-control and the emergence of the middle class, about mastery and self-mastery, and, above all, about the changing muddles we have made of equality and inequality in the tangled relations of men and women and of the rich and the poor. She says these things with an authority and an easy grace that announce the appearance of a new star in the American historical firmament."--Michael Zuckerman, University of Pennsylvania "An impressive social history...Hemphill makes a convincing argument that manners...can tell a weighty historical story...Hemphill's account rightly addresses gender hierarchies, but it also pays close and comparative attention to those of rank and age, to produce a highly systematic and nuanced account of American social relations before the war."--Shorter Notices "[Hemphill] has written a beautifully lucid, engaging, and thorough study that will be valuable to all social and cultural historians of the first long "half" of American history and to our students."--William and Mary Quarterly "Hemphill's keen sensitivity to the ways in which the code of manners changed over time and varied with class, age, and gender enables her to detect innovations--that signal real social and cultural shifts. Her findings shed considerable light on current debates among historians...Hemphill makes important and original contributions to debates on our understanding of the workings of class and gender in America."--American Historical Review

A cultural history with a unique and revealing perspective A study which cuts across race, class, gender, and age relations--and which sheds new light on the origins of modern manners A fascinating analysis of the telling yet overlooked role that manners played in the first 240 years of our history

A cultural history with a unique and revealing perspective A study which cuts across race, class, gender, and age relations--and which sheds new light on the origins of modern manners A fascinating analysis of the telling yet overlooked role that manners played in the first 240 years of our history